Thursday, April 15, 2010

Telling the Family About Your New Hearing Aids: Weigh In!

I recently got an email from a reader of this blog. Other than his grandmother, who has an age-related hearing loss, he's the only one in his family with a hearing loss. He shunned hearing aids as a child, and "hated my HA's all throughout childhood through University."

Now as an adult he's bought himself a pair of hearing aids and wondering how to tell his family about it. As far as his family knows, he still dislikes hearing aids.

What do you think? Should he sit his family down in the living room and tell them all about his aids and his thoughts about becoming more involved in the Deaf/HoH community? Should he let the news leak out gradually or even just wear the hearing aids around and let his family figure it out for himself?

He's welcoming any and all feedback anyone has. If you've been through a similar experience or can put yourself in his shoes and have some advice, leave a comment below or email me (link is to the right). Thanks for all your help.

J., I hope I've represented your quandary correctly in this post. Let me know if I got anything wrong!


  1. Megan, thank you so much for your help in this...peculiar situation! ;) No worries, you've done a superb job of portraying my "dilemma"!

  2. I can't tell someone else what to do. So much depends on the other people involved. I think all of the above are reasonable ways to handle it. So I guess it depends how he personally feels. What does he WANT to do?

  3. The question needs to be asked of him: what does he think his family's reaction will be? How does he feel about the reaction?

    If my guess is right, he is concerned that his family will expect too much of the hearing aids and then behave as if he were more "hearing".

    He might want to discuss any actual improvement he gets from aids and tell them what he wants from his family in terms of understanding and encouragement.

    His mention that he wishes to be more involved in the d/hoh communities seems to be an issue that might have family reactions, too.

  4. Thanks for sharing this story. Hearing aids today, especially digital hearing aids are very small and can fit seamlessly into your hear. There are also many sites that offer forums and support for hearing loss patients to share the experiences. I hope this helps!


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