Thursday, June 13, 2013

Kelly Dougher Shares "How Not To Be a Dick to Your Deaf Friend"

Just popping in to share an amusing, enlightening and ultimately very useful article, written by Kelly Dougher for "How Not To Be a Dick to Your Deaf Friend." Kelly seems to be around my age and also works in a library, but does not wear hearing aids or use a cochlear implant.

While every d/Deaf person is different, I really enjoyed this list. My brother actually told me a story about the first item on her list. He was telling a coworker that I am deaf. She said she was so sorry, and he asked why. Turns out she thought he said dead. Pretty funny!

 I'd add one more item to this list:

If I ask you to repeat something, don't just repeat what you think I missed.
I know this is easy to do, because I've caught myself doing it before, but it drives me bonkers. If I need something repeated, I probably need the whole sentence repeated. Chances are I actually caught the "important" word in the sentence that you're repeating back to me, but I need some context.

Thoughts on the article?


  1. It's frustrating when people only repeat part of a sentence. It's not a deaf-only thing. Even if you're lucky and they actually guess which part of the sentence you missed, now you have to go back and reassemble the whole sentence. Just repeat the whole sentence please.

    I may insist on turning off the captions while watching Charlie Chaplin, you should only be watching for the visuals anyway.

  2. I honestly don't feel bothered if someone signs with me even if they learned sign language ages ago. I would prefer that they still talk while they sign for the reason that they may be signing stuff wrong.

  3. Hi! This is Kelly. Just found this and wanted to say thanks for sharing, and I'm gad you enjoyed it. I definitely agree with your addition, as well--it's a close second to the annoyance of people saying "nevermind" when I ask them to repeat something.

  4. I enjoyed reading the list - it's so true and frustrating.
    I have one that i find frustrating.. when people criticise that my hearing is just selective and that i don't have hearing impairment (i have mild hearing loss since birth and function fine on most days without any aids)
    In a way it's true my hearing is sort of selective in that i can hear only a particular range of sound... but my guess is they mean to say i only choose to not hear.. in the same way someone would tune out mid conversation.. because i choose to not hear...

    ps i'm a new reader and i love your blog here =)


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